On Great Expectations: How to breakup with a friend? | PART 2
Spring Awakening – A Series Of Small Attempts To Change No. 4
The first part of this text can be read in last week’s Muse Letter.
This feels strangely romantic, I say as we walk over North Bridge, towards Waverly Station, our arms interlinked like an old couple holding onto each other to mask the ever growing gap between us. And I swear some night-busker is playing Fix You by Coldplay somewhere. The lights of the Edinburgh skyline, the castle, the mellow winter air, it all feels highly ridiculous given the fact, that I just broke up with one of my best friends.
Or rather suggested a break.
Something so rare in friendship, well at least openly put into words like this.
The other day I went to the book launch of Anahit Behrooz’s new book BFFs – The Radical Potential of Female Friendship and in conversation with Katie Goh they were talking about the term drifting. How when we talk about friendship endings, it is often described as drifting apart or losing touch. As if there was a natural force just slowly pulling people away from each other without any cause but the fact that it is innately so, an inevitable truth of time passing by and growing older.
School ending, different paths, traditional family planning vs. hedonistic lifestyle choices, there are of course potential forces at play that lead us into polar directions. However, sometimes. Sometimes friends aren’t friends anymore because there is something inherently wrong in the dynamic. Sometimes it has been like that since the beginning.